Genesis 37:1 Jacob lived in the land of his father’s sojournings, in the land of Canaan. These are the generations of Jacob. Joseph, being seventeen years old, was pasturing the flock with his brothers. He was a boy with the sons of Bilhah and Zilpah, his father’s wives. And Joseph brought a bad report of them to their father. Now Israel loved Joseph more than any other of his sons, because he was the son of his old age. And he made him a robe of many colors. But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peacefully to him.
Joseph was loved and hated, favored and abused, tempted and trusted, exalted and abased. Yet at no point in the one-hundred-and-ten-year life of Joseph did he ever seem to get his eyes off God or cease to trust him. Adversity did not harden his character. Prosperity did not ruin him. He was the same in private as in public. He was a truly great man.” (Boice)
We all have ideas and dreams about what a perfect family should be. By anyone’s measure, Joseph’s family had a lot of problems. Jacob married two of his cousins, and took two more concubines. Between them all, they had twelve sons and one daughter. There most assuredly been constant competition and conflict among all the children and all the mothers. It was one great big messed-up family; still, it brought forth Joseph, and furthered God’s great plan of the ages. (Guzik)
There are some differences between Joseph and his brothers. They appear to be given into temptations and Joseph saw them as bad and reported it to his father, Jacob (Israel). It takes a strong mind to withstand the influences of others and a stronger one to withstand those of older siblings. Joseph at the age of 17 was able to discern right from wrong and chose to follow what was right.
There are many things that a group will determine it is ok and right to do by the mere fact of them agreeing on it. It has nothing to do with it being right with God and God-honoring. Cultures and societies do the same. They determine what is right in their own eyes without giving any thought to their creator and the purpose for which they were created. Obviously, Joseph’s brothers had the sense that because they were outside of Jacob’s view they could get away with whatever they wanted to do. This is no new thought in mankind. Many men think their actions, thoughts, and words are hidden from God and they will not be held accountable for them. Nothing is hidden from God. He knows our thoughts before words are spoken, He knows our actions from before they are given birth in a thought of defiance.
Having discernment between what is God honoring and glorifying and that which is not is a great gift to be desired in the life of every believer.